Temperament influences and controls everything we do in life. From our attitude and dispositions to things that concerns us as individuals, to how we relate and interact with others. It can also determine to a large extent how successful we’ll be in our human interpersonal relationships and also our marital and erotic dating relationship. If you are observant enough, you’ll discover that, while some persons are very approachable and easy to get along with, others appear very hostile and simply unapproachable, and difficult to understand how to relate with them. These differences are often due to the different temperaments we’re born with, which we no doubt inherited from our parents and grandparents.

In today’s post, we want to examine how a person’s temperament affects their marriage and family life, so that when you see anyone manifesting any of these traits, you’ll be able to know the temperament category they belong, and also feel more relaxed and comfortable when relating with them.

One of the problems so many couples often face in their marriage is their inability to completely understand the behaviors of their sweetheart, where such attitude or behavior came from, and also why they act the way they do. You read my post on; Best Temperament Compatibility For Marriage And Relationship. If you understand why exactly your partner acts and behaves the way they do, then you will be able to easily forgive or maybe manage their weaknesses in order to have a peaceful and successful marital and family life. Read on to discover the qualities and idiosyncrasies of the four basic temperaments.

Different Temperaments And Response To Their Marital And Family Responsibilities:

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There’s really no much difference in the way the four basic temperaments behaves and relates with people outside their homes, to how they interact and relates with their spouses and kids in their homes. Except for a melancholy whose attitudes and behavioural patterns are sometimes inconsistent, perhaps because of their frequent mood swings.

First off, let’s consider the sanguines who are the first and foremost extrovert of the temperaments. Sanguines are highly extroverted individuals. They are best described as people-oriented personalities who usually finds more meaning in life when surrounded by people. Whether in their homes and outside their homes, sanguines are very lively, hilarious and fun loving people. They usually spice up their marriage and relationships with fun, and make it more lively with their fascinating storytelling ability, frequently taking their partner out on a date, visiting the mall, or just going out together for fun moments. But if they’re completely overwhelmed by their exuberant lifestyle or had married a very docile person who they are not that proud of, they will usually go out alone in company of their friends and admirers leaving their sweetheart behind. There’s no other temperament that’s capable of living exuberant and effervescent lifestyle than a typical sanguine. For them, there’s no age limit to this lifestyle. Sanguines do not actually know when they’re to draw the line between taking part in all the fun moments of life and when to get serious and busy in building their homes.

The sanguine’s spouse and kids are always excited when they’re at home, and they’ll often relish that moment. For a sanguine is a very hilarious and fascinating storyteller who will make them easily forget the few moments they’re unhappy while they are away. As a predominant sanguine who is an outgoing person, thus may find it very difficult spending more time with your heartthrob and loved ones, I will like to recommend the lovebox color and photo device. This beautiful device will enable you to stay emotionally connected with your loved ones and they will always feel your presence even when you’re absent.

However, the sanguine main undoing in their marital and family life, is their lack of commitment, unserious and undisciplined lifestyle. No other temperament can be more unserious and undisciplined than the sanguines, and this character also reflects in their kids. 7 Major Personality Traits Of The Sanguines In Their Relationship.Their sweetheart will often complain of these negative traits, and sometimes accuses them of infidelity, since they spend more time outside their homes. If sanguines are not controlled or influenced by another secondary temperament of almost equal proportions, they’ll almost fail in keeping their marriage and raising disciplined kids.

Cholerics are the second extroverts of the temperaments after the sanguines. But unlike the sanguines, cholerics are more disciplined, deliberate, determined and self-sufficient people. The way cholerics behaves and relates with people outside their homes is the same way they behave and relates with their spouse and kids in their homes, unless they’ve got a secondary temperament that sometimes controls and influences their behaviours. 5 Major Personality Traits Of Cholerics In Their Relationship

Cholerics are commanders in the field of play. They’re very decisive, authoritative, high-handed and very difficult to please. Never try to argue with them or disagree with their opinion, for they’ll not hesitate to ride roughshod over you and will never whole-heartedly accept yours. making a mincemeat of you with their razor-sharp mouth and knife-cutting words if you try to argue with them is not uncommon. They’re daring table-pounder, chest-beaters, and door slammers when they’re upset. If not raised with love or possess a secondary temperament that naturally embodies compassion and love, they’ll know nothing about love or being emotional, and their milk of kindness and compassion is almost dried up.

Many cholerics who never experience love during their childhood or were probably hurt or sexually molested in their teenage years, often grows to become very mean and heartless persons who never forgives those who hurt them. In their homes, their spouses and kids have so much fear and trepidation for them because of their hard facial looks and difficult to please attitude.

But if trained with love or had married someone they deeply love, who often interests them, they’ll become the best spouse to their partner and the best parent to their kids. No one dares or tries to hurt a choleric’s loved one or people that are so precious to them. For they’ll fight like a wounded 🦁 lion to preserve their family and keep them happy and in ☮️ peace. You can order and read my book; how to live with a choleric sweetheart on Amazon. It will enable you to perfectly understand a typical choleric’s love life and how to live peacefully with your choleric sweetheart.

Now, we come to the second category of the temperaments, which are basically the introverts. Phlegmatics are the foremost introvert of the temperaments. These are people who often keeps to themselves but they’ve got a natural love and desire to be with people. They’re the most quiet, gentle and peaceful individuals, who are very easy to relate and get along well with. Of all the temperaments, phlegmatics are the most peaceful, gracious, simple and also easygoing personalities, whose fear of criticism, confronting pressures and challenges does not allow them to be in disagreement or conflict with anyone. 5 Major Weaknesses Of Phlegmatics That Negatively Affects Their Success In Life. This lifestyle also finds its way in their marital and family life.

A phlegmatic home is easily the most peaceful home. Eventhough they may feel bad about the attitude of their sweetheart, they will rather not talk about it, but will decide to conceal it in their mind in order to avoid confrontation and commotions in the home. This attitude and behavioral pattern most times makes them being taken advantage of, and also subdued in their relationship. And since they do not speak up against what they feel bad about, inner resentments and negative thoughts or ill-feelings is not uncommon for them.

Phlegmatics parents are the type of parents that often fears scolding and disciplining their kids, for fear of getting themselves upset. They’re the most passive parents of the four temperaments, next to them are sanguines. Their emotional nature could make them easily rescind their decision to discipline their kids when they misbehave, just seen tears rolling down the kid’s eyes. It’s for this reason that kids who are under the training and care of typical phlegmatic parent usually grows to become so unruly and stubborn not just to them. However, phlegmatics are usually very loving and caring personalities, who often desires very peaceful and romantic moments with their spouses or ❤️ heartthrobs, and also wants the best for their kids, but can also be very selfish and self-centered, desiring to have everything good for themselves and decide what others should get. But if they’ve got a secondary temperament of either choleric or sanguines, they’ll make fantastic couple and parents.

Melancholies are the second introvert of the temperaments after phlegmatics. But unlike phlegmatics, like i stated at the start of this post, melancholies are inconsistent in their behaviours and attitudes, perhaps because of their persistent mood swings. How a melancholy behaves and relates with people outside, is quite different from the way they behave and relates with their spouse and kids in their homes. A typical melancholy could appear very calm, quiet and gentle outside, but they’re very lively, expressive and aggressive persons inside their homes. They could also sometimes look unfriendly, hard and unapproachable outside, like the cholerics, but are usually very warm, hospitable and also enjoyable personality in their homes. It’s basically for this reason that people often misconstrue and completely becomes confused about a melancholy’s character. When he’s at his best mood, he’s a very peaceful and calm and happy person that you could mistake him to be a phlegmatic or sanguine but when his mood is completely down, he will become a very belligerent and aggressive individual that you’ll wonder if he was the same person.

No one can understand melancholies better than their spouse and kids. If you want to know a predominant melancholy’s real character, ask their spouse and kids, for they know them better than you do. 5 Major Weaknesses Of Melancholies That Negatively Affects Their Relationship.

However, melancholies are loving, caring, hospitable and reliable personalities, who do not disappoint those who are honest with them and are counting on them to do the right thing. No other temperament is more loving to their families, and are more concerned about the well-being of their spouse and kids more than a melancholy. They’re extremely jealous and protective of their loved ones more than any other temperament. For the Melancholies, their immediate family is everything. If you hurt any member of their family or loved ones, you’ve hurt them, and you’re automatically their enemy. But one thing that negatively affects many a melancholy’s marital and family life is their perfectionist tendencies.

No other temperament is prone to being a perfectionist more than a predominant melancholy. Their inherent perfectionist tendencies makes them a nitpicker, who are very critical of themselves and others. It often makes them nag and complain about almost every thing that’s not whole and complete, which consequently also fuels their hard to satisfy attitudes. But if melancholies can re-orientate their minds, and also change their mindset to know that nothing in life is perfect and humans are fraught with imperfections, and learn to be tolerant, always appreciate themselves and others, especially their spouse and kids and become less critical, they will be very exceptional and impeccable personalities.

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